1. Do I remind myself to be nice? (Display something, possibly a trinket, that helps you remember to be kind and fair.)
2. Do I worry less by trusting niceness more? (Remind yourself kindness and fairness make you good enough.)
3. Do I keep in mind hurt fuels sadness and anger? (When you find yourself sad or angry, be open to owning and healing a hurtful loss.)
4. Do I rise above the temptation to pretend it’s OK not to be nice? (Don’t forget you almost always know whether you’re nice or not nice.)
5. Do I explore times I overreact? (When upset, consider the possibility that you’re overvaluing a way to feel able and/or close.)
6. Do I try hard to understand others? (Remember, helpful empathy requires sincere humility.)
7. Do I work at appreciating the importance of lessening my stored hurt? (Keep in mind stashed hurt can result in lingering sadness, called regret, and lingering anger, called resentment.)
8. Do I find ways to explore niceness? (Spend time exploring nonfiction and fiction that features kindness and fairness.)
9. Do I take time to relax and refocus? (Put aside time to ponder mind-mellowing self-care statements, such as the one that follows: Despite what the world says, only seeing myself be nice will give the peacefulness I desire.)
10. Do I appreciate niceness? (When given the chance, thank others for their kindness and fairness.)